When someone disagrees with a statement or stance that you have made what do you think and how do you react?
I believe that most of us have a tendency to be defensive when this happens and maybe come out fighting with a response. When you are on a growth journey you will find your mindset around this situation changes, I know it did for me.
It is important to remember that there are always two sides to every story and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. As my thinking expands I find myself asking why other people think differently to me in circumstances as noted above.
Maybe they, or I, do not have all of the facts and therefore the opinion may change once these have been clarified?
Maybe we just have different opinions, and that is OK too. We live in a world where freedom of speech and thought is encouraged so we should not expect everyone to agree with us all of the time.
When someone disagrees with you do not take it personally and attack them. Instead take time to work...
Have you ever wondered thy some people are easier for you to communicate with than others?
There are 4 personality profiles, according to DISC, and we are all a blend of these with at least one being our Primary communication style. To be able to communicate with everyone effectively we need to learn how to recognize these profiles and adapt our messaging to fit the intended recipient.
This does not mean that we are changing ourselves, on the contrary, it is merely saying that how we say something is more important than what we say. Therefore we can say the same thing to each of the four profiles and get four different responses. The video below gives more of an overview - if you are interested and want to find our more you can email me at Chris@Chris-J-Baker.com
I heard a story today about us having an imaginary influence that has PMA on one side and NMA on the other. If you choose to use the PMA side you will attract good things and if you choose the side with NMA engraved on it you will repel good things.
I am a firm believer in PMA - Positive Mental Attitude. NMA is the opposite - Negative Mental Attitude.
As Henry Ford famously said: Whether you think you can, or you think you can't you are probably right.
I am celebrating 3 years with out any alcohol today and I could only have made this possible by adopting a positive mental attitude. I talk about this more in my course and other material but for now I simply want to ask you to maintain a PMA and see what good things are attracted to you.
When you give you will grow - Chris Baker
Personal growth is a term that indicates it is about you (personal) but I don't believe that is the case. Personal growth should be more about what we contribute to how other people feel about themselves than making us feel better about ourselves.
I do what I do because it benefits other people and seeing their growth and development is my satisfaction.
My why statement is to: Add value to other people so that they can become the best version of themselves.
You see, by adding value to others and contributing to their development has a positive effect on me too. This is my growth, this is the difference I am making to the world.
Make a difference to someone today and let me know how it feels.
Throughout my career I have found that most people are reluctant to ask for help. I will add that I was one of these people, even though I didn't realize it at the time.
So why are we so reluctant to ask for help?
I recently asked one of my team this same question and the answer was one that I suspect many people would give. He said that he felt like he should know everything and by not knowing what to do he was showing a weakness. Does this sound familiar?
An interesting fact regarding the answer above, is that this gentleman wants to become a trainer, so I followed up by asking him what he would think if his students didn't ask for help when they didn't know the answer? I could sense the cogs going in his mind and he gained a new perspective.
The truth is, we are not expected to know everything. I teach that we should learn something every day and if we already know everything this wouldn't be possible.
Growth is a journey that takes time. It is not always easy and sometimes it...
How do you determine whether you are receiving criticism or advice?
There are a few factors involved in this process and the first one starts with your own mindset.
If you mindset is closed to ideas, what you hear will always be criticism. When your mindset is open to criticism, you will be open to hear advice. I include this statement in my overarching theory that you should have a growth mindset as when you do it allows for constant learning and sharing of ideas.
Another factor to bear in mind is who the comment is coming from. Are they someone who is constantly finding fault and only provides a problem, never a solution? In this case it is probably criticism that you are receiving. If, on the other hand, this is someone that you trust, someone who always has your back and provides solutions rather than problems, you are probably receiving advice.
The moral - maintain a growth mindset, associate with the right people and be open to criticism.
As I walked the dogs this morning a thought popped into my head that I wanted to share with you.
We are all affected by our environment and being aware of this can help put things into perspective. I walk the dogs on a trail by our house every day that backs onto Lake Apopka. The lake is huge and I often marvel at how different it looks, based on the weather.
This morning was a beautiful calm day with hardly a cloud in the sky. As a result the lake looked like glass. Later today it will almost certainly be stormy here in Florida and as a result the lake will look completely different.
My point is this: The lake remains the same yet it's appearance changes and therefore so will people's perception of it. We are the same. If we are in a negative environment, the chances are higher that we will become negative ourselves so choose your environment.
You are the Captain of your soul, the master of your fate.
What do you think the missing word is in the statement: Sometimes you win, sometimes you .......?
Conventional thinking would say "Lose" but in the world of John Maxwell we say "Learn". This is a mindset change and one that I believe everyone should adopt. We learn from our mistakes and therefore we should see failure as a learning opportunity - in other words a good thing.
I know, you are probably shouting out "What?, you are seriously saying that failure is a good thing?"
Yes, I am. I believe that if you don't fail you are not trying hard enough. This is part of my philosophy about having a Growth mindset rather than the traditional Goal mindset. We should be looking to grow and learn every day, pushing ourselves and our limits in order to achieve things most people don't believe are possible.
You can find out more by joining my online course, Your Third Quarter, where I talk about this in more detail.
Do you have a plan for you personal growth?
A few years ago, like most people, my answer to this question was "No, what are you talking about?"
You see I thought that hard work and effort alone would get me the things that I wanted. The truth is, it doesn't. This is why a lot of people are in a rut, stuck doing something they don't really enjoy, wondering when their next "break" is going to come along, thinking that if they work harder, work longer, things will get better.
They key to moving upwards is personal growth so I ask again, "Do you have a plan for your personal growth?"
If you don't, like most people, it is OK. The good news is that it is never too late!
Take me, for example. I was 50 when I finally realized that I could take control of my life and my destiny if I truly wanted to find happiness. I will tell you more about my own journey in my program: Your Third Quarter. Suffice to say, I turned my life around by becoming intentional about my actions. I moved from a goal...